The Tweet is Mightier Than The Sword

My mother used to say to me “If you haven’t got anything nice to say then don’t bother saying anything at all.” (Take note Craig Revel Horewood) I guess the world would be a nicer place it we all did that, but we don’t. All too often conversations start with “Oh you won’t believe what so and so said about me/you/someone else!” I suppose the trouble is in todays world with all the wonders of social media, the problems of people saying down right nasty things to other people has probably multiplied monumentally.

Hurtful words do cause low self esteem and damage our self confidence. Words are very powerful and can be devastating when they are used to hurt someone else on purpose. The words we speak or write down in a text or post on the internet, can have a huge affect not only on us, but on others as well.

It is important to realise the massive effect words can have. The trouble is you do get the crowd that say, “I was only joking!” or “No offence!” or “I didn’t MEAN it!”. The thing is whether we mean it or not, if things are said often enough they can change the very nature of the person they are aimed at and lower their self esteem and give that person a damaged view of themselves for a very long time to come.

People don’t realise the massive effect that hurtful words can have on others. Hurtful words can cause life long damage and is the cause for low self esteem in people, especially if it’s put on them as a child although just as easily as an adult.

The best way forward if ever it does happen to you, is to forgive the person who said/wrote it. Through what ever insecurities they have they thoughtlessly said something horrible to you, to try and make themselves feel better about themself. So just forgive them and move on with your life. Although if it really effected you, the quicker you begin to repair the damage to your self esteem the better.

Low self esteem is basically caused by the negative thoughts that we have about ourselves. To overcome low self esteem, is a very long process but we must at least try to change these negative thoughts to positive ones. The first step in doing this is by changing the way we talk to ourselves. We must try to stop all of the negative self talk for a start, it is only doing more damage. So try replacing your negative self talk with positive self talk.

When you find yourself thinking something negative about yourself (such as – I'm so stupid or I'm so fat or I’m so ugly or useless), replace it with a positive stuff (such as – Ii I really look at it, I have a great life or Most of the time I’m fairly happy, there are loads of people who do love me). Sit down and figure out a few positives that would make you feel better and give your self esteem that little boost it needs. Eventually your subconscious mind will believe them to be true. Although it may take a little while to achieve.

The trouble with hurtful words apart from causing us to feel sad, can also result in resentment and anger. With these negative emotions ruling the roost, we are living in misery instead of enjoying life.

It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks, your self esteem is all about what you think about yourself. So don't dwell on the negative thoughts, turn these around to positive ones. Try as hard as possible to be the most positive person you can be.

Be kind to everyone you meet and alway try to give someone, even if you’ve heard bad things about them from someone else the benefit of the doubt before you treat them in any other way. When we’re nice to someone we boost our own self esteem and theirs as well.

If someone is constantly negative about people try and avoid them! Attitudes are contagious – so try and be around people with good attitudes. That can also raise your self esteem too. Somebody a lot wiser than me once said, If we turn our face to the sun, all our shadows fall behind us.

Let’s face it, we could all do with a greater bit of self esteem it feels good to feel good!

At the end of the day I guess mum was right, it is always better to look at other people’s positives and trying to build someone up to feel good about themselves, rather than focusing on their negatives and trying to bring them down.